Whether you’re already in a serious relationship or just casually dating, the quality of communication with a guy you like can make or break your relationship. So what is the single most important tip for women who want to improve communication in a relationship? I asked author, speaker, and world-renowned relationship expert Jonathon Aslay for his #1 tip, and he did not disappoint!
Check out what Jonathon has to say:
How to Improve Communication in a Relationship
Give Him the Benefit of the Doubt.
Always, always assume your guy has the best of intentions. One big mistake I see a lot of women make is thinking their guy is purposely trying to hurt them.
If he’s in a relationship with you, he wants you to be happy with him, and he wants to be happy with you. If you’re both starting from a place of happiness, trust, and respect, then you will both give each other the benefit of the doubt.
Never assume that he’s trying to get under your skin. Always assume he has good intentions and wants to make you happy.
So how do you assume he has good intentions when you’re not feeling happy with him? Put your negative feelings aside, and allow only positive thoughts to come into your mind. Remember why you fell in love with him in the first place.
Sit with those positive thoughts, and just let them be. You’ll find your attitude toward your man is happier and more positive. You will then be receptive to what he has to say, even if it might be a little bit negative.
Believe what your partner says, because trust and honesty create the foundation of your relationship. If you can’t rely on him, you have an even bigger problem than a little communication glitch.
It all comes down to your perception. If you think your man has bad intentions or negative feelings, your interactions will be depressing and downbeat. If you believe your man has good intentions and positive feelings, then your interactions will be uplifting and fulfilling.
It’s all about your mindset.
About Jonathon Aslay
Known as America’s Leading Midlife Dating & Relationship Coach, Jonathon Aslay is a defender and protector of women’s hearts around the world. He helps women transform from attracting Mr. Wrong into finding their Mr. Right.
Jonathon is a successful entrepreneur, coach, speaker, and author of Unlocking the Male Mind, Finding Love Online and Why Men Pull Away: 3 Ways to Keep Him Close.
Jonathon truly understands the way a single or divorced man thinks and acts. He’s a master at helping women recognize and distinguish the difference between men who are emotionally unavailable from those who are truly ready for love.
You can find out more about Jonathon at his website, JonathonAslay.com.
While the natural human instinct is to jump to conclusions or even feel victimized, it is important to exercise restraint if you want to improve your communication with a guy. If this sounds easier said then done, then start small by giving your man the benefit of the doubt. Always assuming he has your best intentions at heart is a powerful way to take control of connection-destroying thoughts and steer them in a more positive direction. Now, you can put Jonathon’s advice into action and start communicating more effectively today!
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